Things used to be so much simpler. A man and a woman got married, and then had a child. “Baby makes three” was the old adage. But now it might be “baby makes FOUR.”
Because as our society “evolves,” we must take into account the fact that a gay couple may want to have a child together but need a little extra DNA to make that happen. That sperm or womb donor is biologically a parent of the child – but what does that make the other partner who contributes no DNA to the child? According to more and more courts in the nation, the child’s parent as well.
Welcome to the world of “tri-parenting.”
California, Maine and courts in at least 10 other states, including New York just this winter, have designated third parents in recent years, even as some courts and experts have raised qualms that more parents means more potential conflict, according to the Wall Street Journal”
American courts have for decades granted some rights to grandparents, stepparents and others in children’s lives, but parents have uniquely broad rights and responsibilities.
Advocates say acknowledging a third parent — whether on a birth certificate, by adoption, or in a custody or child support ruling — reflects the modern realities of some families: gay couples who set out to have a child with a friend of the opposite gender, men seeking to retain paternal roles after DNA shows someone else is a biological father, and other situations.
On the one hand, who can argue that more people looking out for the wellbeing of a child isn’t a good thing? Too many children have no one to love them – how lucky to have three. And many children benefit from the care and attention of extended families, with grandparents, aunts and uncles to look after them.
So is it perhaps old-fashioned and closed-minded to see this move as part of the progressive agenda to undermine traditional marriage and families? Or have we already crossed that bridge years ago?
[This article was written by Michele Hickford, author of the brutally honest and bitingly funny Do I Need To Slap You?]