Damned if you do: New study says smiling, chivalrous men are actually sexists in disguise

[Note: this article was written by Michele Hickford, Editor-in-Chief]

Men, I’m sorry. You simply cannot win.

A new study published in the journal Sex Roles says that men who act friendly and smile a lot around women may actually be disguising “benevolent sexism.”

The Washington Post reports, “Basically, the argument is that these two properties — hostile sexism and benevolent sexism — work together to maintain inequality,” said lead author Jin Goh, a graduate student at Northeastern University. Most people think of sexist men as being dominant aggressors who believe that women should be put down in society. But other men believe that women should be treated with kindness and love, but still don’t see them as being capable of achieving the same things as men.”

“It’s a very paternalistic, protective view of women, and it seems kind of appealing as a sort of chivalry,” Goh said, “But it does contribute to inequality, because these men don’t expect women to achieve high goals.”

Granted the sample size for this test was small (only 27 pairs of college students) – but since we’re talking about this subject, we all know size doesn’t matter.

The men were given a test called “the Ambivalent Sexism Index. It had men rate their agreement with statements like “women are too easily offended” (an example of hostile sexism) and “a good woman should be set on a pedestal by her man” (an example of benevolent sexism). Statements that suggested equality, like “women shouldn’t necessarily be rescued before men during a disaster” gave negative scores.”

“No matter how the women acted, men were more likely to show patience and friendly nonverbal cues the more highly they rated on the benevolent sexism scale.”

“Sexism can appear very friendly and very welcoming, so in the paper we said that sexism can act like a wolf in sheep’s clothing,” Goh said. “We add that sexism can consciously or unconsciously cloak itself in friendliness, so in a way it’s more insidious and treacherous than hostile sexism.”

Ok, so using this logic, I’m in greater danger from a man who opens the door for me than a man who pushes me against the wall for a grope?

It’s now a NEGATIVE if a man is polite to me?

And now we wonder why civility is disappearing from our society?

Can I ask one more question?

Does this logic therefore apply to racism?

It should certainly apply to affirmative action. After all, if you’re being extra nice to minorities, I suppose that would imply “benevolent racism.” Minorities aren’t expected to achieve high goals, so they must be given extra advantages to achieve.

And who are the most benevolent racists? Progressives.

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Sandra Dudley
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For a long time now feminist have sought to make us a gender neutral society where men and women are the same because they somehow think sameness is equality. It isn’t. God created us all equal in dignity, value and worth but He didn’t create us the same. Sometimes it is unfair to treat people the same who are different. Being different doesn’t make one greater than another, just different from one another. Instead of suppressing our differences, we should appreciate, admire and celebrate them.

Doink ThaClown
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As Dave Chappelle said “Chivalry is dead and women killed it”

ksoileau
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Chivalry isn’t dead, it ran off to where “acting like a lady” went.

Mark Flaming
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It’s not dead. Maybe in critical condition, but till the last of us old fashioned well mannered men die? Then it will be dead. But not before.
I pray that it never comes about.

android
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The best revenge is living well, my friends. Ladies, like it or not, I’m holding the door, standing when you do, pulling out the chair, offering you my coat when you’re cold or my arm if you’re in heels and walking conditions make it seem like it might help.

I honestly don’t give a rat’s a$$ what some girly-man, pajama boy lib thinks about it, either.

Have a nice day.

Acensustaker
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I would take a man who would treat me like a lady ANY day over a male who treated me with no respect or consideration. Those “feminists” are nothing more than castrating shrews.

ksoileau
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Too late, I think. Too many men are fed up. Welcome to equality, ladies.

Mark Flaming
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H/T android.

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Thank you, sir.

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Jerone A. Bowers
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Some of these people really need to get a life. It’s all bull shite.

cicada69
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perhaps “equal civility”? I’ve been given the evil eye for holding a door open, with a retort ” I can do that myself “.. -without regarding the possibility that I was raised to demonstrate common courtesy.
Still, I’ll not let the assumptions of some, limit or redefine my character, intentions, nor the expression or capacity of my heart.

So: ‘tough turds’ if you don’t like my “Golden Rule” expression of how I’d like to be treated; I’ll accept reciprocation, -graciously-.

Acensustaker
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I always smile and say “Thank you!” whenever someone holds the door for me. It used to be what we called “common courtesy”. Sad how things have become so self-centered with no gratitude.

Harry Hirsch
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“Minorities aren’t expected to achieve high goals…”
Last time I checked, Asians are a minority in America and they ARE expected to be high achievers. If you can’t make a sweeping statement that includes ALL minorities, then find something else to write.

ksoileau
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In my view, we are watching natural selection at work. The only “men” that will procreate with these harpies are weak males with defective genes. Mother Nature is filtering the gene pool.

Isa
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welcome to the world of feminism, Mr. West.

Greg Neely II
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How about a picture of the author? I suspect that picture might be worth a 1,000 lbs. of this liberal yankee BS.

Mark Flaming
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Mark Flaming
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Here’s a look at the primary author of the congested pile of stupidity called a ‘study’.
Figures too.

http://www.northeastern.edu/cos/psychology/people/graduate-students/jin-x-goh/

andrea hart
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Females like “Jin” are disgusting to me! I will not call her a woman! You need to make up a badge for females like you to be worn in public so others will know they can drop the door in your face and just basically treat you indifferently! After all, we do not want to offend you for crying out loud! I, for one, would like to know by use of said badge that I should avoid you at all costs!

Mark Flaming
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Jin X Goh is a ‘man’. Not a very manly man. More like a cry-baby.
http://www.northeastern.edu/cos/psychology/people/graduate-students/jin-x-goh/

William Lou Jenkins
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WELL IF ITS A MAN THEN HE PROBABLY A HOMOSEXUAL ! NOT THAT THERE IS ANYTHING WRONG WITH THAT ! BUT Y’ALL NEED TO KEEP IT TO YOURSELVES ! I DONT APPROVE OF ANYONE MAKING A SPECTACLE OF THEMSELVES TO JUST SAY HEY LOOK AT ME IM DIFFERENT !

William Lou Jenkins
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BECAUSE IN TODAYS DAY AND AGE ! THE MINORITY CONSISTS OF ONLY WHITE HETEROSEXUAL MEN ! WOMEN BLAME US OF HAVING KEPT THEM IN BONDAGE IN THE FORM OF MARRIAGE AND BEARING CHILDREN. BLACKS BLAME US FOR SLAVERY ! AND HELL WE ARE BLAMED FOR EVERYTHING ! SHOOT

Acensustaker
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Why are you screaming?

Donna West Berryman
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Well not to be racist toward asians, but how many have you met that they arent smiling when you first meet them? so who knows what asian men are thinking,just saying

banger377
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https://www.youtube com/watch?v=-QQJrIZaLsA

75skydog
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Thank you. I sent that idiot some quite pointed e-mails. Lmao !

75skydog
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Howdy folks, an’ welcome tah Shevy’s chauvinist showcase! Hooey we got some reeeal good ‘ns today folks. Billy Dean from Fort Worth Tx writes in with this here one: “I always said, women and machinery do not mix”
Dog gone that were a good ‘n there. Jason writes in from Tampa with theis here one: “It’s a dag gone good thing there aint too many women pilots! We don’t need no crashed airplanes litterin’ up the dern place now!”

If’n you got some more good submissions, you fellers kin post ’em right here

Canadian Combatives
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Sexist…. I suppose we should all just continue being aloof to everyone around us, so as we don’t upset anyone. I will kindly disagree and continue to be the Gentleman my Grandparents raised me to be. Old fashion chivalry is still alive and appreciated by Ladies from Gentlemen. Set an example, I think so.

75skydog
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Here here!

MotherBatherick
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A lot of this sexist crap can be blamed on the agenda of Leftist groups and their “Radical Feminists”. And let’s not forget the liberal TV shows of the seventies and their push to influence women and feed them full of this sexist BS. Now it’s about gays and the transgender crowd and how everybody is SO UNFAIR to them. Boo hoo! Sick of this crap and the dumbing-down of men.

75skydog
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Here here! Wheneverna femininst, male or female feminist, tries to exhume this topic in discussion with me, I automatically lapse into my male chauvinist routine until they regret that thet mentioned it

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TBuzzard
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Were they still alive, my mother and my grandmothers would heartily disagree with that criticism. My brother and I were taught by those ladies and by my fathers example that it is gentlemanly to hold a door for a lady and all those other things. To not do so was a punishable offense. To this day at 76 years old I still observe those teachings. I find that many women, both young and old, are often surprised that I hold a door or let them enter an elevator first, etc. The first sign of national decay is a loss of… Read more »
mtman2
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Excellent ~!!!

harbi-doll
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Bring chivalry back!

Brian Robinson
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That’s BS! LOL!

harbi-doll
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sarc?

Brian Robinson
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Yes!

harbi-doll
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*sprays Febreeze* Oh then.

ksoileau
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So obviously, women who treat men kindly and with respect may be lazy bitches looking for a meal ticket? Where’s the flip side of the study?

ksoileau
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Where’s the study warning men that women who treat them with respect are probably lazy gold-diggers looking for a meal ticket? Bueller? Bueller?